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Second chance by Sedma Second chance by Sedma
I've recently lost a friend. Actually not a friend, he's still alive, but his friendship. We weren't so close but I considered him as a good friend. He was nice and very kind and he meant a lot to me.
I don't know when it started. Now when I turn back, there were a lot of signs but I haven't payed attention. Few weeks ago I've noticed some strange, unusual things but I tried to find some reasonable explanations. We are friends, there must be some good reason for what he did or didn't do. But few days ago I finally found the last sign, I found out that what I was afraid of, is true. I apologized to him even I still don't know what have I done wrong that could ruined our friendship. I simply didn't get a second chance. I think everybody should get, at least, a second chance. We are not perfect, we are humans and errare humanum est.
I'm so sad :(






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yoyododo1990 Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2013
To err is human, but Forgiveness is divine. Im quite sure people have reasons for acting how they do, even the worst of enemies have SOME reason for feeling that about someone, so we must always forgive. We may not always forget, but we should always forgive. And everyone deserves a second chance, especially if they are honestly trying to do the best they can to correct such mistakes. This stamp deserves a fave!^^
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WhiteWings Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Before I say anything more, I want to say that this may not be your case at all: I don't know you, and you were a bit vague about your situation. So, I can't judge - it's not my place. However, the following is what I think to be true.

I...think I agree with the message, but only to an extent; the right to a second chance is sometimes lost to some people. I'm not saying they don't deserve forgiveness, but they could lose the right to friendship. Of course, whatever had to have happened would be something horribly destructive to the friendship. Even if it weren't too horribly destructive, I don't think a second chance should be given right away, where one has to pretend nothing happened while hurt feelings are hidden under the surface, eating a person inside out.

I think trust is something that has to be earned, and depending on the severity, might be something that is unattainable. In those situations (when further relations with someone is impossible), one has to accept and move on. It won't be easy, of course, but all things can and do heal.
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Riddle79 Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2012
used
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:icon1000yearseternalmaze:
I am sorry, but your friend is a jerk.leaving you just like that, without any explaination...I have experienced a simular stuff and I can guess how you are feeling.No matter how tough was for him, whatever was the case, he should have said something to you.
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Kitzophrenic Featured By Owner Dec 17, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
this is what i try to tell my best friend when i screw up :dead:
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Eve-Francesca Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
I don't know if I already commented on this or not, but if I didn't, I'd like to say that I love this stamp and I can relate to it quite a bit. Thank you for making it! It contains a GREAT message. =D
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Xeerinare Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Aww.... I kind of know how you feel.... :hug: I hope things get better....
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peacelovehalstewart Featured By Owner Sep 3, 2011
of course :D
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Stripesandangelwings Featured By Owner Aug 20, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Sorry. I really know what this is like. I hope all goes well...
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JessamineDiane Featured By Owner Aug 17, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Not in the case of Poison Ivy no. :hmm:
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RogueWarrior869 Featured By Owner Aug 6, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
A lot of people deserve a second chance. Sometimes it's needed to make someone realize something they were doing was wrong. Good luck resolving this.:)
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GiardQatar Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2011  Hobbyist Photographer
So true ....
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Sedma Featured By Owner Sep 5, 2011
:nod:
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WithinOurTemptation Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2011
I agree. Luckily for me I got a second chance. I was stupid and made a comment towards a friend and it really hurt them and by accident I said something similar again and I almost lost them and had them hate me for it. Thankfully they listened to my explanation and things are better between us.
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Sedma Featured By Owner Sep 5, 2011
That's what truly friends do, always listen to explanation and give second chance. I'm glad you've got yours :heart:
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WithinOurTemptation Featured By Owner Sep 5, 2011
Thanks XD
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I-am-Britta Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
No, you don't get a second chance because you messed up. You're a bad, horrible person because you had the audacity to make a mistake. The same thing happened to me while I was studying abroad because I had never taken a vacation with anyone outside my immediate family. I tried to budget myself by withdrawing money and leaving my wallet at home. So the other girl paid a surprise fee on our hostel and treated me like crap the rest of the time. She's been refunded in full but she's no longer my friend because I made the mistake in the first place.
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Sedma Featured By Owner Sep 5, 2011
I haven't messed up :) I think it was all only in my head, because I haven't heard from him for some time. I always think the worst will happen, but it never does :) I think everything is ok now :dance:
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I-am-Britta Featured By Owner Sep 7, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
I know, I was being sarcastic. ^^ People actually hold that opinion tho; it's the darndest thing! I'm glad everything worked out for you!
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theboxfairy Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
Agreed. Had a friend who was angry with me, went to ask her why, she ignored me and told my other friend that "she knows what she did". And I was like, dude, wtf, no, I don't. I fucking hate it when people do dramatic shit like that, its really selfish.
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Sedma Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2011
It's very childish behavior :nod:
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riscu Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
the same thing happened to me last year, and I'm still trying to contact him </3
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Sedma Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
Good luck dear :heart:
Thanks for the fav :hug:
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riscu Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you, and you're welcome :heart: :tighthug:
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Netufi Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
You gotta really talk to him seriously. You can't just leave it hanging like that. Don't just assume that all hope is lost, and give up.
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Sedma Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
I simply can't force him to be my friend if he doesn't want to be. Actually I don't know what he thinks right now, he never answered me. I only read between the lines.
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Netufi Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
That's not what I'm saying, I just think it's best to actually try and work things out. That doesn't mean being happy and sappy and merry and gay and live happily ever after. It's just talking about it a little, at least not turn your backs when you see each other.
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Sedma Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
I would like to work things out so much but if he doesn't want to talk, I can do nothing. Maybe one day he will. We won't see each other, but if we would, I would never turn him back. I'm not young girl who is sulking, I'm way to old for such things :)
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Netufi Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
That's good then.
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Eurythmic Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Student Writer
Awwww. Well, I love you. So we can be friends instead :D!

I'm sorry for you loss in friendship, though. Feel free to vent to me if you need someone to talk to. The stamp is very nice, too!
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Sedma Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
Always :D

Thank you so much for your offer, you're very kind :heart:
And many thanks for favs :hug:
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Eurythmic Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Student Writer
No problem! I'll be here for ya'!
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Sedma Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
:hug:
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Eurythmic Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Student Writer
:huggle:
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AmaranthFlamesoul Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
It's hard for me to empathize, since I've most recently been in the position of getting rid of a "friend" who really didn't deserve another chance (long story short, she tried to hook me up her the guy she's cheating on her boyfriend with and lied to me twice when I asked if that's who the guy was. When I confronted her - complete with angry name-calling, I admit - she completely flipped out and said I was being a bitch for acting the way I was about it.)

But if it wasn't something that extreme, then I agree that you should get a second chance. Unless you betrayed your friend's trust really badly or hurt them very deeply, I think your friend should be willing to talk to you and try to resolve things, especially now that some time has passed.
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Sedma Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
It's not that extreme at all :no:. I'm way too old for such games :) But I understand what you mean. I haven't hurt him, at least I haven't done it on purpose. Except saying someone that you care can hurt this person. Sometimes I think that he only pretended that he was my friend, I don't know.
Thank you so much for the comment.
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AmaranthFlamesoul Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Welcome. Good luck!
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Sedma Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2011
Thank you :heart:
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AmaranthFlamesoul Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Welcome. :)
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AriadneArca Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Well, speaking from experience, acting hurt and resentful of the ex-friend's lack of forgiveness is hardly likely to win him back over... ^^; People seldom break off good friendships without a really good reason, and it could be he'd given you your "second chance" without you even realising it. However, I do think it's bad he didn't explain himself.
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Sedma Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
This relationship is very strange to explain. We were always good friends, no quarrel, never any bad word, no high voices, insults, just nothing. That's why I don't understand why.
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CareBearKidd Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
My best friend and I are pretty lucky with this. :blushes:
He's the only person I'd ever give a second chance to, and he's definitely put up with my irrational behavior for more than I deserve, haha.

Good luck with you and your friend, though. :(
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Sedma Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
That's what I call true friend. I have such relationship with my best friend :nod:
Thanks for your wishes :heart:
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Sk-Skooter Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Student Digital Artist
I know how you're feeling. :[ One of my closest friends turned her back on me before I even knew what I did. I, naturally, didn't get a second chance to fix whatever mistake I made and because of it, I lost another close friend. People suck sometimes....
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Sedma Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
Everyone should get another chance, at least some explanation.
What more comments I read, more it seems to me that it's usual thing to be left without an explanation :(
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Sk-Skooter Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Student Digital Artist
:[ If that's a normal thing, then people REALLY suck.
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Sedma Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
Just take a look how many comments of people who were in similar situation :( I agree, people sometimes really do suck.
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Sk-Skooter Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Student Digital Artist
I see them. :[
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Berryz1cute Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Student Digital Artist
I've been there before, but not the end you're on. I've given the girl so many chances, I just got done trying. Not exactly the same, but similar. But that's the thing-- if they're not even giving you a second chance or tell you what you did/are doing wrong, they're not worth your effort. :] I hope you have other close friends to make up for the jerk!
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Sedma Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
Those were exactly my thoughts. Maybe he isn't worth my effort at all. Thanks God I have some really close friends :nod:
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